Marriage Counseling in California

Couples Counseling | Premarital Counseling | Affair Recovery Counseling

Counseling provided In-Person and Online

Our relationship experts can help you heal your relationship through counseling provided in the way that suits your needs best.

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Couples Counseling

Relationships truly are a challenge. And sometimes, it feels like you can't get a foothold when the world is against you. Our relationship experts can help you find ways of creating connection and intimacy, and feel fulfilled in your relationship.

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Premarital Counseling

You said "Yes!" to each other! But you both know planning for the marriage is just as important as planning the wedding. We can help you create a foundation of trust and intimacy for the life ahead!

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Affair Recovery Counseling

When the worst has happened to your relationship, the pain can feel overwhelming. We can help you find healing.

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Online Counseling for Couples

Whether you live in a rural area, or you have a crazy schedule, online couples counseling can make it easy to receive the support you need from a licensed professional. Our counselors are well-versed in the online counseling realm, and are ready to support your relationship!

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Faith-Based Counseling for Couples

God created us to live life with others, especially in hard seasons. We can provide you with counseling that understands the importance your faith plays in the process of healing your relationship.

Code 3 Counseling is now the

Monterey Regional Center


Restoration FirstResponder Centers

Are you ready to give your relationship what it needs?

We offer free 20-minute consultations with our incredible team who can help you understand if couples counseling would benefit your relationship. 

You can heal and restore your marriage.

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You don't have to be married to enjoy the gift of couples counseling. Whether you have been together for two months or two decades, counseling will help you to connect on a deeper level than you ever thought possible. Couples counseling can help both of you to strengthen your communication, use conflict (yes, I said conflict) to bring you closer together, and find joy in your relationship. For out first responder couples, you have the ability to create a bond that is stronger than any other kind of marriage. And you can find it together.
At Code 3 Counseling, we understand the first responder lifestyle in ways most professionals can't imagine. We are able to genuinely meet you where you are at. We can help to heal the hurts that you have experienced together, whether these hurts are recent or have been slowly built over the years. You will find the fulfillment in your relationship that you have longed for.
In counseling sessions, we work with you on finding ways to connect and overcome the barriers of the first responder lifestyle. Some of the ways we do this includes helping you to strengthen communication, increase intimacy, and provide hope for the future. To live in a first responder marriage that brings meaning and passion to your life.

Whether you are dating, engaged, married, or in a committed relationship, marriage counseling is for you! We use approaches that are based on decades of research, and we know it will help you. Our ways of working with couples have been proven to work with first responder couples.
For those first responder couples of the Christian faith, we are also able to incorporate biblical truths with your sessions. Our hope is that you can experience transformative power in the love of Jesus, and that He will breathe life into your service marriage!

How can marriage counseling help my relationship?

Whether you are just starting your relationship, or have been together for a lifetime, couples counseling can help you both:

Increase your intimacy. You can find a deep level of connection and intimacy (both emotional and sexual) after going through marriage counseling. Even with the crazy ways the job can impact your relationship.
Strengthen your partnership. Sometimes couples need support in finding ways to be on the same team. You can strengthen those connections to fight the battle against the world together in ways you hadn’t thought possible.
Strengthen your communication. When you go through counseling together, you both can develop new ways of connecting and communicating with each other that are realistic with the lifestyle. Not all tools are created equal for this in the first responder world.

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Strengthen your trust. Many couples struggle with building trust, especially when you work in a field where you can't trust anyone. You can learn ways of strengthening your trust with each other, whether it has been broken or simply strained by the responder lifestyle.
Find your purpose together. When working in the first responder world, we can often lose focus on the reasons we chose to be together. You can connect in ways that help you both find meaning and purpose in your relationship. When you do this, you both can create a community of love and support beyond just your marriage.

You can find joy in your relationship!

We offer free 20-minute consultations with our incredible team who can help you understand if couples counseling would benefit your relationship. 

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Our Counselors working with Couples


Liz Durfee, ACSW

Mental Health Counselor

Liz Durfee is an Associate Clinical Social Worker with incredible experience helping couples through a multitude of issues. Liz truly enjoys helping couples grow closer together and deepen their friendship and intimacy.


Alisha Sweyd, LMFT, CFRC

Director & Co-Founder

Alisha is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified First Responder Counselor, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Alisha has a passion working with couples and helping them heal together.

Still not sure about it?

We offer a free 20-minute consultation for those interested in services. It will give you a chance to describe your particular issue, ask any questions about our experience, and help you feel more comfortable with us.


Serving folks in person in the Monterey Bay Area and online throughout the State of California.

You don't have to figure this out on your own. We are ready to meet you. To start your journey towards freedom, follow these easy steps:

    Contact Code 3 Counseling by email, give us a call, or schedule a free consultation now!
    Get connected with our team of competent and qualified counselors.
    Start winning the battle and defeating the obstacles that are keeping you from a free and peaceful life!