You worked so hard to get to this point. The long hours, the missed family traditions. It took a long time for you to be able to say "I did it!"
But what you are going through isn't what you thought it would be. You thought you would feel excitement, fulfillment, like all of the work was worth it. But instead, you feel disconnected from the people who meant the most on this journey. From your friends and colleagues who are staying where they are while you move on. Maybe you are retiring, while everyone else is sticking around. Maybe you got the promotion to captain, and now your friends are distancing themselves from you because you are command.
And now you find yourself asking, "Who am I? What is the point of all of this? What am I supposed to do now?"
Your family just doesn't get it. They don't understand how this is making you question it all. Whether you should go back to the department, go back to being sergeant. The camaraderie of the job was a major part of your identity. Now that the job has changed, you are questioning your own identity.
It's not supposed to be this way.
Through counseling, our team can support you through this transition. Sometimes, job changes can take a little more time and effort than we originally thought. The way it impacts our thinking, our relationships.
And our counselors get it.
Our staff understands how transitioning to a command position, or even into retirement, is different for people in the responder and military community than it is for others. We can better support you in knowing how this type of works makes these changes more challenging than other fields. How your identity is impacted when you make a change, into command or into retirement.
Through counseling, you will find more peace and hope in this change. You will be able to connect with your friends and loved ones, in ways that are meaningful to both you and them. We can help you find ways of using this transition as an opportunity for growth, for you and those you can mentor.
Retirement and career transition counseling can help you by incorporating understanding of emotional growth into the processing of your issues. Your counselor can help you explore the changes you face while also exploring how these issues interact with your identity and ability to impact your community.
There are many different reasons why people seek our retirement and career transition counseling, including:
● Dealing with the identity crisis● Coping with changes in friendships● Managing stress when facing a big change● Recovering from the loss of relationships● Strengthening your ability to impact your community● Improving your relationship with those closest to you● Coping with parenting struggles that also come with these changes● Poor self-esteem or self-confidence● Poor relationships with mentees
"Dare to live the life you have dreamed for yourself. Go forward and make your dreams come true."
Ralph Waldo Emerson