Code 3 Counseling is now the

Monterey Regional Center


Restoration FirstResponder Centers

Their drive and passion in their work is part of the reason you fell in love. Knowing the good they are making in this world can fill you with pride. As a partner or loved one, you know it is hard for your responder, but you can't help feeling overlooked, disconnected, and frustrated. The long nights and shifts. Missed holidays, anniversaries, and birthdays. Cancelled date nights due to mandatory overtime. Others always asking where your partner is. And then, when you do get time together, it's running errands or cleaning the house. It feels like there is no time for connection or communication. It is exhausting going through life while loving the person behind the uniform. And on top of it all, you often worry about your responder, but you won't tell them you do.
The academy, boot camp, all of the training, none of it prepared you for the struggles of the job on your personal life and the life of your responder apart from the job. When trying to find support, it can be hard finding people who understand the culture of the first responder life. Watching your loved one go through mood issues, anger, depression, knowing they have seen traumatic things they would never burden you with, and the hypervigilance that comes with the territory, it weighs down on you. You want so badly to be there for your partner, but you don't know how.

You can find hope & restoration.

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We understand firsthand the way this lifestyle can impact a family, and particularly an intimate relationship. When looking for help, it is important for you to find people who can truly support you, who are competent and comprehend the first responder life.
We are here to help the loved ones of first responders and military personnel process and cope with the demands of the lifestyle. From the disrupted routines, to the feelings of disconnect, to the question of, "What is the meaning for all of this?", you can be understood and accepted in ways that help you feel truly seen by another.
You will gain insights into the way your story impacts the story of your responder, as well as how to enhance the hope this life can bring you. We can also help with the disconnect and lost intimacy in your relationship with your responder, finding comfort through the chaos of the lifestyle.
First Responder Spouses Individual Counseling sessions last between 45-50 minutes. To know the fees and costs for sessions, look here. Sessions occur on average once every week or two weeks. Based on your goals and treatment needs, counseling can be as brief as 8-10 sessions or can be longer-term over a year or two.

Are you ready to find freedom and healing?

We offer free 20-minute consultations with our incredible team who can help you understand if counseling would benefit you. 

How can counseling help a first responder spouse?

Empower Yourself - You will find the confidence in yourself to face obstacles with energy and find creative solutions.
Learn to Calm Your Mind - You can find ways to regulate your thoughts and emotions even in this stressful lifestyle, with crazy schedules and dynamics. Gaining that inner peace.
Gain Clarity With Your Personal Goals - You are not defined by your spouse's career. You can find the motivation and vision to be the person you want to be.
Improve Your Own Mental Wellness - Decrease your experience of anxiety, depression, anger, and other mental health struggles. Then you can find out how to live in freedom!

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Strengthen Your Emotional Intelligence - Understanding yourself can lead to incredible breakthroughs for your mind. Find the healing you have been looking for!
Improve Your Communication - Whether it is with your spouse, friends, or family, find ways to communicate your needs and hopes in a way that helps you. You can also learn new ways of connecting with others in deeper, more meaningful ways.
Become More Intentional - Learn to regulate your own responses so you can be mindful of the way you are when facing challenges. Instead of being a product of your circumstances, you can become the powerful catalyst that brings your life joy and fulfillment.

Let's talk about how we can help you thrive in your life as a first responder spouse!

We offer free 20-minute consultations with our incredible team who can help you understand if counseling would benefit you. 

Still not sure about it?

We offer a free 20-minute consultation for those interested in services. It will give you a chance to describe your particular issue, ask any questions about our experience, and help you feel more comfortable with us.

"I'm not in love with the uniform, I'm in love with the one wearing it."



Serving folks in person in the Monterey Bay Area and online throughout the State of California.

You don't have to figure this out on your own. We are ready to meet you. To start your journey towards freedom, follow these easy steps:

    Contact Code 3 Counseling by email, give us a call, or schedule a free consultation now!
    Get connected with our team of competent and qualified counselors.
    Start winning the battle and defeating the obstacles that are keeping you from a free and peaceful life!