You found out your partner is having an affair. Has been unfaithful. Broken all of your trust. If you were the one who had the affair, you probably feel confused and overwhelmed by your own actions.
You feel like your world is falling apart.
It is devastating to find out that your partner has been unfaithful. You don’t know if you can move past this, or if you even want to. You find yourself looking into divorce lawyers, apartments, books, whatever you can to make some sense of this whole thing.
Right now, you aren't even sure you can comprehend how or why this betrayal happened.
But it hurts. It all hurts. The pain can be unbearable, unthinkable, confusing, overwhelming, all at once. You find yourself feeling anxious or depressed, questioning everything. How could this happen? Why us? Now what? You don’t know where to turn, who to talk to, or how you can go on. You don’t know what to believe, who to trust. You know you need help and support, but you don’t know where to turn to.
Affairs do not equal the end of your relationship.
With our help at Code 3 Counseling, you can heal and rebuild trust. If you and your partner decide you want to stay committed and try to mend your relationship, counseling can be paramount in this process.
In affair recovery therapy, you are able to work through the struggles in your relationship alongside your partner. You and your partner will understand the affair, and find ways to grieve and heal together.
We know it is possible to become open to forgiveness, for your partner and for yourself. We have seen couples use an affair to remake a relationship. As you learn more about what caused the affair, you won't find shame or blame towards each other. Through the work we do, you can find compassion. You will develop more empathy and understanding for each other.
While healing from an affair can be hard on your own, you can strengthen your bond with the help and support of our relationship experts.
Grieve the hurt you and your relationship have experienced. One thing many couples struggle to realize is the need to grieve after an affair. There has been a loss of trust, a loss of the dream you had for your relationship. You both need to grieve, and affair recovery counseling can help.
Repair the relationship. When you can understand the factors that led to the affair, you can find ways of moving forward together,
Restore your trust in yourself and your partner. When infidelity occurs in a relationship, both partners will struggle with trust. Trusting yourself AND trusting your partner. We can help you build that trust back.
Find your path toward healing. Not all couples who experience infidelity heal together. But affair recovery counseling can help both of you find closure and peace with the path that you decide to take.
"The place of true healing is a fierce place. It's a giant place. It's a place of monstrous beauty and endless dark and glimmering light. And you have to work really, really, really hard to get there, but you can do it!